The Changeover -

Do not go back.

For you, it might be the phone call that ends a decade-long marriage. It might be the pink slip that arrives via impersonal email. It might be a diagnosis. It might be the quiet, horrifying realization that your children have grown up and you no longer recognize yourself in the mirror without their small hands reaching for you. The Changeover

You are not depressed. You are completed . You have finished the puzzle of who you were supposed to be, and you are staring at a picture you no longer like. Most people think the changeover begins with a choice. It doesn't. It begins with a collapse. Do not go back

The chaos you feel is not a sign that you are doing things wrong. It is the sound of a shell cracking. And a shell only cracks when the thing inside has grown too large for its old container. It might be a diagnosis

In the void, you will feel like you are failing. You are not failing. You are fallow . A field cannot grow a new crop until it has been left empty for a season to let the soil regenerate. You are not broken. You are being prepared. You cannot build a new cathedral with the blueprint of an old toolshed.